These thoughts and memories won’t seem to go away. They always pop up out of nowhere.
Anonymous said: Sorry, but as a female I think women who claim to be raped multiple times are either lying for attention or really stupid. You're obviously doing something wrong if you put yourself in a position to be raped multiple times by either the same person or different people. #sorrynotsorry
you know, you must be right. you’ve solved the entire rape crisis by blaming the women who are being raped.
This must be ESPECIALLY true in countries where men believe that they are sexually entitled and there are unequal gender relations. I’m sure you were talking about the US but let’s take a look at the rest of the world for a moment:
- Lesotho (located in South Africa) has a rape rate of 91.6%/100,000 *It wasn’t until 2003 that Lesotho passed The Sexual Offenses Act which prohibits rape, including spousal rape.
- Trinidad and Tobago has a rape rate of 58.4%/100,000
- and Sweden has a rape rate of 53.2%/100,000
You mentioned that women who are raped multiple times are either lying for attention (in which the truth is only about 8-10% are ‘unfounded’ and honestly, it’s hard to grasp the correct % of those ‘lying’ for attention) because incidents like this occur far too often. Now about them being “really stupid”… About 2/3 of victims know their attacker and more than 50% of all rape/sexual assault incidents were reported by victims to have occurred within 1 mile of their home or at their home. Do you think maybe they’re simply afraid to report the person because they know them and their rapist has threatened them or they trust them not to do it again? Yeah, probably. Or maybe they don’t think anything will come from them stepping forward or they’ll be blamed. Only 3 out of every 100 rapists will ever spend a day in prison. Not to mention the effects of being raped are extensive and can include depression, PTSD, and suicide.
I’m going to assume that you haven’t been raped, let alone multiple times. However I think it’s safe (and very sad) to assume that someone close to you has been raped considering 1 out of every 6 women has been a victim of rape or attempted rape in their lifetime. I can assure you that if it was someone dear to your heart or you, that you wouldn’t take this smug approach.
You are part of the problem. Victim-blaming compounds the psychological trauma experienced by survivors (remember the effects we talked about earlier?) You’re giving rapists a free pass and are possibly allowing them to harm another individual.
No one wants to be hurt. Especially in such a violent and hurtful manner.